I think we all on here realize that each person has problems of one sort or another. It is also noticed, I am sure, that at various times, in various circumstances, if we choose to be available we can be an instrument to help someone. I am going to share a brief part of a longer story here, hopefully to encourage others to have an open ear and open eyes to hear and see how you can help another. As I know many have done similar things, it would bless me, and others to hear how lives have been helped and changed.
A few days ago, I guess it was Wednesday Feb. 11, 2015, as I was sitting at home, I had the opportunity to have fb msg talks with four different friends from ROH Community Centre where I volunteer each Thursday night, at the same time.
It started when I read a couple posts on fb that SB & AH were having relational problems. Now, SB (M) and AH (F) have just recently become engaged after a short tumultuous time together. They are currently at the home of SB’s Dad, which is a 3-4 hour drive from Kitchener. The comments really got heated, and should not have been made public, but I am actually glad they were, because I could then see what was happening and contact them. I have known SB for a number of years, but basically know of AH more than know her. Both opened up and were willing to talk when I contacted them via fb msg, although SB did back away for short periods of time periodically.
Over a period of 3 1/2 hours it was possible to keep in contact with each of them, getting their thoughts individually, working them through my mind, and making suggestions to each of them that if they really did care for and love one another, they should each ask forgiveness, tell the other that each loves the other, and then talk through their differences. About 11:45 p.m. I received a message that they did, and were sitting together talking and hanging out. Checking in with them over the next couple of days, it was learned they were still talking and getting along.
During that same 3 1/2 hour period, msg chats were had with BM and JB. JB has been having many anxiety attacks again recently. She was very depressed, anxious, and talking suicide again.
BM was anxious, angry, frustrated, depressed and also talking of hurting himself or others. At least on this night he was not drinking as on the two previous nights. He was still upset with his living arrangements and wanting to change immediately, but has not found a place to move to yet. At this stage, BM is actually discontented and discouraged with everything in life.
A variety of options were discussed with BM and JB. They seemed to grasp some truths of life, and what they could be doing.
As of Friday night BM was still doing good and sounding positive about life, trusting that a place would soon be found. Also, no bugs were seen for two days, so that obviously had a big impact on how he was feeling.
On Thursday night JB was first upset, but got better during the night at the Centre.
Friday night JB contacted me again wishing to die because of anxiety attacks. After fb msg chats, and many questions, it was learned where JB was, and she was then told that the location and the person she was with, was the cause of her anxiety. She then left to go home. She left a msg later that she was feeling better once she got out of that environment and arrived home.
When those spoken to consider what is being said, and act in a positive manner, it makes the time commitment worthwhile.
(Care needs to be taken not to upset wife with too much time spent chatting with others.)